have to say "when"..... cut our losses and move on....!! a friend advised me today....to "just let go" of a particular situation.... after pondering this advice for a few minutes... it occurred to me... i don't really understand letting go... there is also the old saying...."forgive and forget".... all of this is easier said than done... to forgive...is actually quite easy...but to forget...not so much.... "letting go" is another easier said than done....
when someone....lashes out...deliberately....saying things to hurt another... it's just not so easy to "just let go".... in my mind....it is....words hurt...they never ever go away...once they are uttered...they are permanent... there is no taking them back...there is no...forgetting... the words have forever altered the relationship.... break my bones...they do heal...break my heart...it will mend... but words...they are always...always...there....
it's okay to be angry...to know ones own limits.... as a dear friend once said to me many years ago...we teach others how to treat us.... and if we allow them to treat us unkind...it is no ones fault but our own..... we have taught them we accept their cruelty...and it's okay for them to hurt us....
it's not okay...and it's not easy to say...i let go....i forget.... time heals...and that's the only real medicine...for some things.... time... helps the hurt...lesson...it helps the words fade... into the shadows....of another day.... it helps me to remember....be careful what you say... be careful how you say it...be honest when you do... because those words....can some day...come back and haunt you...
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